One of our interior doors rattles when it’s latched (Actually more than one door does that… #oldhouselife),
And one of our cats (Tess the tortie, if I’m naming names) likes to rattle that door to no end when it’s closed, most especially in the early morning hours.
This commotion was driving us a bit nuts, so my (adult) son, who’s been staying with us for a few months, came up with this solution:
Normally it doesn’t look like we’ve slammed the bedroom door on a witch, but it did this morning, so I thought you’d appreciate this picture.
And naturally I got to thinking!
We make all sorts of adjustments in life. Some of them are harmless and don’t cause us a bit of bother. Sticking a glove or a sock in a rattly door, for example.
Other times, though, our adjustments and work-arounds pile up and really do bother us. We adjust to things that we might just as well fix and move on from. But we get used to the adjustments in a weird way. They become part of our life.
Things that need to be fixed around the house, for example…
Have you ever had someone come to visit for a night or two, and you find yourself explaining all these things you who live there have gotten used to? The toilet handle you have to hold down, the back door that doesn’t shut all the way unless you hold it just right, that one blind that always pops up when you pull it down, the gurgling noise your kitchen sink makes?
It makes you realize how much you put up with. How many things you’ve adjusted to.
My sweetheart is a real estate agent, and one of the things that often has me flummoxed is how many of these things come up when a house is being bought or sold.
On the one hand, I certainly understand the quirks of any house, and most of what we put up with is along the lines of the glove in our rattly bathroom door. After all, when someone’s buying a house, it’s very often “used,” so though the seller (usually) spruces the place up for the sale, it’s still a used house.
And on the other hand, sometimes it’s doggone surprising the extent to which people adjust and work around truly inconvenient time-sucks and dangers. Things that really should have been fixed.
Things that get away from us
Naturally, though, things get away from us. Plus, they cost money to fix in the case of house stuff.
And just like with our dwelling, when it comes to our life, it’s often a matter of things sneaking up on us and then snowballing after a while.
Sometimes it’s no big deal.
But sometimes it is.
It’s good self-care to be on the lookout for things that are no longer just a little workaround type of adjustment.
When things pile up, fester, and grow, they turn into problems. We know this.
Things like health stuff—you know, tooth-care, healthy eating, weight and all that, skincare, staying in shape, etc.—well, we know how that stuff sneaks up on us.
But emotions do the same thing.
And they pack more of a punch than just about any of the physical stuff.
Because emotions are our guidance. They’re our inner wisdom that tells us what’s happening in our body.
They come from the thoughts we have about things that happen around us—they’re the bodily evidence of our thoughts. And they manifest as vibrations in our body.
That’s easy to see in the case of something that “makes your blood boil” or makes you “sick to your stomach” or has you “crying tears of joy,” but it’s not just the big, bold emotions that manifest in our body.
They all do.
Good vibes, bad vibes
Even subtle emotions have a vibration.
In fact, subtle emotions are just the sort that’ll do the snowball-y fester-y thing while we assume we’re just going about the business of life.
It’s obvious the sort of damage we can do when we let extreme emotions pile up without tending to them, but it’s the subtle ones, too, that can damage us.
Now that we humans are over the primitive-human hump (more or less, cough-cough), and now that we’re in the throws of mega changes in our world and in life as we thought we knew it, we’re also waking up to things we didn’t used to consider in everyday life.
One of those things is the fact that our emotions have everything to do with our health.
And not just our mental health. It’s our whole-body health we’re talking about here.
Vibrations in the body encourage and attract more vibrations like them. There’s science behind this, but you already know it’s true.
So it stands to reason that harboring “bad vibes” attracts more “bad vibes.” And at the very least, stagnant “bad vibes” aren’t going to do a body a bit of good.
We know now that we can look inward at our emotions and get a grip on them so they don’t keep running wild in our body. That’s awesome when they’re great-feeling emotions, but it’s hell when they’re not.
When I began to appreciate the magnitude of what our emotions have to do with our very life, well that’s when I began to talk less about what and who is wrong in the world and more about how much we ourselves have to do with how our life is.
And how all life is.
It’s good for the world
We each have not only the capacity, ability, and the very power to handle and change our own life, but we also have a responsibility to do so.
And when we begin to explore, understand, and expand on the goodness we already innately are, we affect those right around us, as well as the entire world.
We’re part of the expansion of humanity, and we can actively be even more of this by taking up the personal task of looking inward at our emotions—and then working with them in order to no longer be just an accident of circumstances and reactions, but a vibrant and aware being.
This is good for the world.
And frankly, this is why I began life coaching. I’m helping people look at their mind and then see the vibrations that arise from the mind’s thoughts.
I’m helping people look unemotionally at their emotions (ironic, isn’t it?) so they can move past adjustments and workarounds they didn’t even realize had snuck up on them.
And it works.
And look, it took some convincing to get me past the hokie idea of life coaching.
Yet when I realized how compatible it is with my views of personal responsibility (as opposed to blame) and the importance of human-to-human contact (as opposed to us-and-them), I was all in.